Sometimes you get screwed in life

After months of searching, a fruitless trip to Washington, and more searching we found a van in Illinois that we thought fit the unicorn bill.  It took quite a bit of convincing the seller that we were serious buyers.  Then quite a bit of time to actually get the information we were asking for.  After a few weeks of getting everything squared away Geary headed to Il.  We had the van checked out by a local mechanic before Geary flew out and the engine checked out in good shape.  Geary was concerned about rust on the vehicle, especially being from IL but the mechanic said it was actually in pretty good shape given the age.  Fast forward a month and we've learned that we bought a lame unicorn.  In the last two weeks our excitement has turned to disappointment, heartbreak, and hopelessness.  We found out a couple of weeks ago that the van has major damage to the frame and is unsafe to drive, un-repairable, and we are basically just out the money it cost to purchase the van.  I've tried calling the sketchy roadside dealership that we were concerned about purchasing a vehicle from and they are living up to our worst nightmares. They have been unavailable to talk and likely devoid of any sense of responsibility in selling a completely worthless car to us.  Basically, we got screwed.  It's a hard one to swallow and has brought back up all my anger about our house and the well.  I know it's not healthy to hold on to and really serves no purpose but it's still there.  Forgiveness is hard to find when it feels this raw and intentional.  It shakes my belief in the goodness of people and makes me want to isolate myself from others.  Beyond that it has shaken our plans.  This trip already seemed like a huge mountain to climb to make it happen and now this?!  We're bouncing between a renewed energy in making this work because we know how much we want it and feeling hopeless about the financial side of things.  It was already going to be a stretch, Geary didn't think we could make the money side of things work but I was holding out hope that we could scrape together enough.  We really want to go debt free but that desire doesn't seem likely given that we are out thousands of dollars.  Thanks Steve... or Sam, yup there were red flags like the sales guy having two names.  Maybe we're stupid or maybe people suck or maybe both.